I’ve been fascinated by sex and sexuality my entire life, starting with my hands down my pants and growing to include ridiculous amounts of research, writing, teaching classes, and being an advocate for self-acceptance and exploration. Helping people find a way to be comfortable in their bodies and sexualities is why I believe I’m here.
While I celebrate all forms of sexuality, BDSM/kink and polyamory are particular passions of mine. Most of my workshops are about these and related topics, but please know that I do not believe that any sexuality or relationship style is better than any other.
I am blessed to live in the Portland Metro Area, where we have amazing sex-positive, polyamorous, and BDSM/Kink/Leather/Fetish communities. We have an incredible number of local events and resources, and I try to contribute to that in whatever ways I can. Some of my projects include:
- I can attest that Annamarie is, without a doubt, the most well-prepared and professional presenter I have worked with or watched in action over 15+ years and hundreds of presentations. She is engaging, professional, prepared, and still humorous, knowledgeable, and fun. She is also not lacking at all in charisma or charm, though she doesn't rely on it to carry her presentations.
Annamarie uses live models, video, handouts, and interactive discussion with the audience (as appropriate for the specific content of the moment) to move her presentation forward. She is always very approachable and makes everybody feel welcome, often going above and beyond to assure different members of the audience that they are included when issues of gender or label come up.
I have found her presentations (the one I assisted, and others) to be of significant value and always worth the time/money expended. She CARES about her audience and it shows.
There is no subject that she would volunteer to present about that I wouldn't be confident that she would deliver a blow-away presentation that would get high scores from any audience.
- "Passionate, engaging, and informative! Whether she's moderating or presenting, Annamarie brings both humor and energy while managing to make her audiences comfortable --even when the subject matter is uncomfortable."
Strap On Play
Are you curious about strap on play? Wondering how on earth to pick out a harness or dildo? Or have you been “strapping it on” for a while now and are looking for some sexy new tips and tricks? We’ll be covering it all, from different harness styles to troubleshooting your play. As a bonus, we’ll show you how to make your own simple, cheap and safer-sex friendly harness out of an unexpected kitchen staple! Bring your questions, share your experiences and enjoy a lively demonstration.
Endorphin-Based Needle Play 101
Needles can be exciting, erotic, terrifying and beautiful, especially in the hands of a skilled top. In this HANDS ON workshop we will focus on the s/m and sensation aspects of needle play. Basic safety and piercing techniques will be reviewed, along with ways to manipulate the needles to intensify your scene.
Tops, bring your own bottoms if you want to be guaranteed someone to practice on. I will be available to pierce anyone wanting to experience receiving needles. If you have preferred supplies, please bring them, though there will be some available for practice. Come explore the intensity of needle play!
Stop, Hey, What’s That SOUND?
Urethral Sounding – Not Just For the Boys!
Sounding is a form of play usually left to the men, but it is equally as intense and powerful to experience as a woman. The feeling of smooth metal entering the urethra is truly unique, and can result in some incredible g-spot stimulation – and that’s all before adding the little extras like vibration and electricity! I’ll be going over the different types of sounds, health concerns and risks associated with this type of play. There will be an exciting live demonstration showing how to use sounds, and on adding extra sensation to your scene!
Genitorture For All Bodies
Pussy Torture and CBT are usually thought of and taught entirely separately, even though most of what we consider to be genitorture can easily be done to ANY body! This workshop will cover some basic anatomy and safety precautions, and will emphasize how to use the same techniques to cause excruciatingly delicious sensations on genitals of any kind. There will be a live demo of many of the basics: clips, clamps, canes, floggers, slapping, punching, kicking and much more. We’ll top it all off with a how-to session for several types of butterfly boards. Bring your questions and your creativity and get ready to watch a bottom in sexy agony!
Sounding for All!
Sounds have come a long way from the excruciating treatments for urethral scarring. These days we primarily use them for pleasure, and oh! what a pleasure it is! The feeling of smooth metal entering the urethra is truly unique, and can result in incredible prostate and g-spot stimulation – and that’s all before adding the little extras like vibration and electricity. I’ll be going over the different types of sounds, health concerns and risks associated with this type of play. There will be an exciting live demonstration showing how to use sounds on both female and male bodies, and on how to add extra sensation to your scene!
Mummification: We’ve Got You Covered!
Mummification, also known as encasement, can be a surprisingly intense and powerful form of play. Whether your goal is objectification, sensory deprivation or adding a new facet to your scenes, mummification can be the way to go! During this class we’ll be going over two of the most accessible types of encasement – plastic wrap and duct tape. You will learn some handy tricks and how to handle the risks inherent to this kind of play.
Pleasure, Power, and Pain: An Introduction to BDSM
BDSM – whips, chains, and lots of black leather, right? Well… sometimes! But the world of kink and BDSM covers so much more, from a little rough sex to the opportunity to explore your personal boundaries, both emotional and physical.
If you’ve been curious about something you’ve read, or turned on by a scene in a movie that’s a little rougher than the usual fare, this class is for you! You’ll learn how to use those amazing toys and have the chance to see what they feel like. We’ll also be discussing role play, power dynamics, and resources for finding the local BDSM community.
Bring your fantasies, your questions, and your curiosity and get ready for a hot evening!
Even More Pleasure, Power, and Pain: Expanding Your BDSM Experiences
Do you have a basic understanding of BDSM play? Perhaps you’ve read some of the how-to manuals, own some kinky toys, took a class or two, or have explored some sexy role play in the bedroom. Where do you go from here?
In this class, you’ll learn skills to help you build hot, intense scenes no matter what you’re into. We’ll cover how to take some of the BDSM basics a bit farther, plus learn some edgier types of play such as CBT, nipple/breast torment, and orgasm control. There will also be a discussion of public play – how to get invited to a party, what to expect, good etiquette, and more!
Be ready to try things out (optional, but so much fun!), ask questions, and share your experiences!
Appreciating the Femme Foot
In this workshop we’ll be diving into the intense enjoyment of the femme foot and how to build scenes that incorporate foot play and those that are centered on foot fetishism. Learn how to pick the right heels, what kinds of sensations we can give with heels and feet, how to kick in high heels, footing, and so much more! There will be live demonstrations of everything discussed.
Events & Projects
PDX Kink Events: www.PDXKinkEvents.com
Portland Queer Munch: www.QueerRavishment.com
Queer Ravishment Parties: January 2012 – July 2012
Talking Kink: www.TalkingKink.com
Vancouver Munch Chat: www.VancouverMunch.com
6/8/13 – Female Urethral Sounding (Desire)
5/15/13 – Pleasure, Power, and Pain (She Bop)
3/30/13 – Strap On Play (KinkFest)
3/16/13 – Pleasure, Power, and Pain (WinK)
3/13/13 – Even More Pleasure, Power, and Pain (She Bop)
2/22/13 – BDSM For Medical Professionals (NCNM)
2/9/13 – Appreciating the Femme Foot (Boot Weekend)
10/21/12 – Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby (Trans Justice Summit)
10/18/12 – Power, Pleasure, & Pain: SM 101 (SheBop)
9/21/12 – Endorphin-Based Needle Play 101 (Valhalla Education Series)
9/9/12 – Kinky Crafts (PLA)
8/30/12 – Strap-On Play (SheBop)
7/21/12 – Genitorture (HOWL)
6/15/12 – BDSM For Medical Professionals (NCNM)
6/10/12 – Strap-On Play (Desire)
3/24/12 – Exploring Whips For Dynamic Scene Creation (KinkFest)
3/23/12 – Sounding For All (KinkFest)
2/17/12 – Endorphin-Based Needle Play 101 (Valhalla Education Series)
1/14/12 – Mummification (PLA)
10/22/11 – Mummification (Bad Girls)
9/17/11 – Female Urethral Sounding (CSPC Seattle)
8/20/11 – Genitorture for All Bodies (Leatherwoods)
6/11/11 – Female Urethral Sounding (Desire)
5/26/11 – Endorphin-Based Play Piercing (SiMs Salem)
5/14/11 – Female Urethral Sounding (Valhalla)
02/06/11 – Endorphin-Based Play Piercing (PLA)
09/27/10 – Strap On Play (RCDC)
09/18/10 – Phys. Ed. / Strap On Play (Conservatory Women’s Party, mini-seminar)
08/20/10 – Endorphin-Based Play Piercing (Leatherwoods)
11/15/09 – All Things Pokie (Whipper Snappers, co-presenter)
10/24/09 – Genitorture (PDX Bad Girls, co-presenter)
08/15/09 – Strap On Play (Leatherwoods)
11/16/08 – Strap On Play (PDX Bad Girls)
12/07/07 – Sensory Play (Naughty Girls’ Night @ In Other Words)
09/08/07 – Strap On Play (PDX Bad Girls)
REVIEW: How To Think More About Sex
I love Brain Pickings. They have introduced me to so many incredible books, videos, and more, which made it all the more surprising how very disappointing I found “How To Think More About Sex” by Alain de Botton, which was the subject of one of their articles back in February. Disappointed doesn’t even come close […]Read More
Eagle Portland, Racism, and our Leather/BDSM Scene
I’m sure by now you’ve heard about the Eagle here in Portland making a stunningly bad decision to book a racist comedian and the community outrage that it triggered. The comedian is Shirley Q Liquor – a white gay cis-gendered man who dresses in blackface and whose act revolves around stereotypes of black women done in […]Read More
REVIEW: Take Me There
So… I read this book right after suffering through “50 Shades of Grey” so some of my enthusiasm may be in response to that, but the stories in this anthology were amazing! I realized that trying to list out my favorites was a pointless task when the list became essentially the table of contents. There […]Read More
REVIEW: Sex: A Book for Teens
I had such high hopes for this book after reading the good reviews of the Midwest Teen Sex Show. Plus, I just read “s.e.x.” by Heather Corinna (which was amazing) so this left me extra disappointed. Don’t get me wrong, this book isn’t all bad. The humor will grab the attention of teens who might […]Read More
REVIEW: Urban Aboriginals
This book has been on my to-read list for years as it’s one of the classics in S/M history and culture. Geoff Mains clearly loves the gay Leather community, which makes this book extra beautiful. His idealistic perspectives show up in his description of what is expected of members of the Leather community: ”Neither arrogance nor […]Read More
I had good sex-ed books growing up, from what I remember. They were straight-forward, science based and once I got over the obligatory “eww gross!” reaction, they were really quite interesting. This book, however, outshines them all. Let me get my one complaint out of the way: the subtitle. “The all-you-need-to-know progressive sexuality guide to […]Read More
REVIEW: Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless & Hopeful
While trying to catch up on listening to Polyamory Weekly (I am horribly behind, still working through 2007), I heard a discussion of Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless & Hopeful by Anthony Ravenscroft. Those involved in the discussion seemed to be put off by the author, but still found a decent number of helpful tidbits throughout. […]Read More
REVIEW: The Ultimate Guide to Kink
It has been quite a few years since we have had a new BDSM 101 book, leaving us with books that were generally written in the mid to late 90s – perfectly good and useful books but dated nonetheless. Tristan Taormino’s latest book, The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge is a […]Read More